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 Post subject: Inter-state Adoption
Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 29, 2013 5:02 pm 
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Does anyone have experience of inter-state adoption. Our agency is licensed to accept inter-state children but they do not seem overly keen on it.

I recognize there are some legal issues to overcome between the two states but surely it is in the best interest of a child if there is a good match in another state.

We are registered with Adopt US Kids and also the Adoption Exchange - but it seems futile to pursue this if there are too many barriers.

Also our agency seems against Adopt US Kids. They stated that they are kids with more behavioral problems and a better match could be found in our own state. Any thoughts / experience?


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 Post subject: Re: Inter-state Adoption
Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 29, 2013 9:28 pm 
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Location: Farm fields of Illinois
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Hi!
I've read both of your posts and yes, I'm very familiar with the interstate adoption process having adopted two of our six infants from another state. It's a bummer and there's no other way to put it. We were actually held up in one state for almost four months because of the interstate compact process.
And yes, you're absolutely right; there's no reason it should be this way at all. For the interest of the children, yes, state lines should make no difference----especially when you're talking about the foster care system. But, it's all about money, period. And, there's an AWFUL lot of 'this is my territory, not yours' in there too, believe me.

You say that you're signed up with AdoptUs....consider signing up with Adopt America too. (I help with Adopt America and they're good eggs :nod) But, if your present agency that you're affilitated with, has a problem with working with other agencies/attorneys.....I'd seriously consider working with another agency. And, IF you're considering adopting privately rather than through the foster care system, I and other members here will be glad to suggest other agencies you can deal with ALONG with your current agency.

Let me caution you though.......adopting older children IS NOT like adopting infants. (Our family has done this and lived to tell the tale.) There are members here who have gone through rough roads and come out with beautiful relationships with their children who were adopted as older children. But there are other scenarios that aren't so beautiful. Just be VERY aware of each child's challenges and know you're ready for those challenges.

Please keep us updated and let us hear from you again!

Sincerely,

Linny

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 Post subject: Re: Inter-state Adoption
Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 29, 2013 9:48 pm 
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Location: Forest City, NC
Your Adoption Connection: Pursuing adoption from NC foster care
I think I really depends what state you're in. If you state truly does have lots of children available who match your criteria, it is probably worthwhile to try to find an in-state match first. But if you're in a state where there aren't a lot kids available who match your criteria, then it may be better to go ahead and start looking at other states.

Unfortunately, the best interest of the child in finding the best possible match does not take priority over jurisdictional issues. For example, I live in NC and am very close to the SC border, but I plan to focus my search in-state because it will be easier that way. Basically, it would be easier for me to adopt a child 6 hours away in another part of the state than a child 30 minutes away who is in SC.

Before I moved to NC, I lived in VA where there are very few children available for straight adoption. If I had stayed there, I probably would have used a private agency and pursued adoption from NC.

I'm still early in the process, but I am using the local DSS and am kinda hoping I'll get matched with a child from this county because it seems like the transition would be easier that way. But I'm still waiting on them to schedule the next MAPP class, so I'm kinda stalled at the moment.

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 Post subject: Re: Inter-state Adoption
Unread postPosted: Wed Jan 30, 2013 2:58 pm 
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Wanted to add too, because you live in Texas, that's a good thing. Texas has pretty good foster to adopt laws (as well as decent straight adoption laws--private wise). Texas usually has younger children to adopt too....good luck!

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Linny

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 Post subject: Re: Inter-state Adoption
Unread postPosted: Mon Feb 11, 2013 2:16 pm 
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Your Adoption Connection: Adopted one child, waiting for second.
I live in GA and both of my children were born in FL. I'm currently in FL awaiting ICPC clearance now! I really never considered it much of an obstacle. We received ICPC clearance for DS in 5 business days, and our attorney is hopeful this time will be even faster. There is definitely some extra paperwork required, but nothing that would prevent me from recommending an interstate adoption.

A few considerations - both of my cases were newborns, and I have no idea how it works with older children. Also, our first agency wasn't licensed in FL, so we had to hire a second agency to handle the FL side of the adoption (significant added cost). At the time we felt somewhat mislead because no one ever mentioned that it was likely we would need to hire a second agency. In this case we have a private attorney, so no hassle with two agencies.

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