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 Post subject: New from MI
Unread postPosted: Mon Jan 14, 2013 5:43 pm 
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Hello Everyone,
I am new to this forum and the adoption process. My husband and I are just starting the process and are excited and overwhelmed :)

I look forward to getting to know everyone!
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Alicia


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 Post subject: Re: New from MI
Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 15, 2013 12:09 pm 
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Location: Hagerstown, Maryland
Your Adoption Connection: I have 3 children, all adopted as older kids.
:welcome What type and age of child are you trying to adopt?

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 Post subject: Re: New from MI
Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 15, 2013 2:52 pm 
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Your Adoption Connection: We are just starting our adoption process.
We are trying to adopt a newborn domestically and privately.


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 Post subject: Re: New from MI
Unread postPosted: Tue Jan 15, 2013 2:55 pm 
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I dont have access to all the forum boards. Does anyone know what might be wrong?

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Alicia


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 Post subject: Re: New from MI
Unread postPosted: Wed Jan 16, 2013 1:59 am 
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Location: Farm fields of Illinois
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Hey Alicia!
I received your email and would be glad to answer your question about the agency *and* why you're not able to post on all of the forums yet.

First, we can't automatically allow full access because this is a private board and so, we make it a point to get to know newbies quite well through a lot of postings before they're allowed to view, post and participate in all of the 'more private' forums. Please don't be offended by this; all of us had to go through this process in order to be members here. It's only because our members value the full privacy status of Forever Parents. I hope you understand.

Because we're a private board, we're able to discuss agencies/attorneys and our feelings about any/all of them. This is really important for all of us because it CAN make a difference between dealing with an agency or not....the difference of adopting a baby or having money scammed away.


That said, you asked about the Adoption Network Law Center. While having no personal experience with them, it might seem they have less than a stellar reputation. I know I would be...and have always been----VERY leary of any adoption entity (agency, attorney or otherwise) who asks for huge amounts of $$$$$ just for a match.

Keep in mind MANY adoption entities have little or no desire to help you find a baby if you're match has fallen through---because there's absolutely nothing to be further gained to make the efforts to find a bm that's wanting to place. Once they get their monies, that's basically it. This applies to sooooo many adoption groups...and the final line is many of them act just like you may have read about ANLC.

Here's one discussion on adoption agency ratings...

http://www.adoptionagencyratings.com/no ... /talk/3157

Granted, this specific discussion is from 2011.....but I strongly suspect you'd see the same attitude and complaints even now. The truth is, like I stated before, there's no reason for any adoption group to search for you because they've already received the larger chunk of their monies........sad, but true.

Adoption is a business, period. It's ridiculously expensive; it employs a LOT of people who are out to make money....and one has to really search to find a group who conducts adoptions because their heart and soul are into it. Yes, there ARE good adoption agencies/attorneys, etc.......but you'll find the majority of them do NOT require this chunk of change up front....and they usually refund at least a portion of the monies should the bm be a scammer or walk away.

If you really, really want to avoid a large risk by having a bm change her mind or the situation falling through prior to birth.......tell any adoption entity you ONLY want a VERY short match...or better yet------only an already born baby situation.
Now many or even most adoption groups are going to tell you 'already born babies' do not exist----or at least seldom so. The 'seldom so' may be true; but 'already born babies' DO exist. You just have to search like crazy....but they're there.

Please feel free to ask questions here; specific questions. We're here to help and support you through this entire process. Some of us also know the pain from a failed match or a 'less than stellar' agency/attorney. It's always wise to ask about agencies/attorneys from those who've been through the journey before you.

We hope to hear more about you and are here to answer any questions about any adoption entities you're considering. As far as ANLC.....I personally wouldn't deal with them.
HTH...

Sincerely,

Linny






http://www.adoptionagencyratings.com/

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 Post subject: Re: New from MI
Unread postPosted: Wed Jan 16, 2013 11:19 am 
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Hi Linny,
Thank you for the information on why I can't access all the forums. It does make sense. I was just trying to access the agency review forum so that I might be able to get some insight on different agencies.

As far as the information on ANLC like you stated most of what is out there is prior to 2011. I have brought this information up to the counselor we have been speaking with and she did not deny the negative things that have been said. She actually addressed it full on. I do understand that an agency asking for a large chunk of money upfront can be leary but they do offer a large portion of money back if you are matched and it falls thru. I guess one of the things many that my husband and I like about ANLC is that they work with a credit union to provide loans at a very low interest rate. We looked into other loans and the rate was 30% which is absurd.

We have not signed on with ANLC yet we are still doing research but from what I have researched so far the positive outweigh the negative. I guess I was hoping someone could give me some recent information about them. I did find a couple of mothers on another site that recently adopted thru ANLC, most recent one was December 28th, and they had nothing but great things to say. These were women that I found on my own and were not referred my the agency. Also, I spoke with some women that were referred by the agency and they also had nothing but great things to say, but I expected nothing less from them.

This is such an overwhelming period of time because our desire to expand our family is so great. My husband wants nothing more than for me to feel the joy of raising a child because he understands that it is something so indescribable since he has already done it.

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Alicia


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 Post subject: Re: New from MI
Unread postPosted: Fri Jan 18, 2013 2:21 pm 
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Hi Alicia :)

I live in MI, where in MI are you? My husband & I adopted domestically, our son was born in UT.

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